{"id":759,"date":"2009-12-28T04:39:32","date_gmt":"2009-12-28T08:39:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/?p=759"},"modified":"2013-02-07T15:00:33","modified_gmt":"2013-02-07T19:00:33","slug":"benim-gunum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/2009\/12\/benim-gunum\/","title":{"rendered":"BEN\u0130M G\u00dcN\u00dcM ve A\u0130LE"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/gunce.jpg\"><img class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-2642\" title=\"gunce\" src=https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/gunce.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"250\" \/><\/a>Bismillahirrahmanirrahim<br \/>\nPazartesi Sayfa No: 2873<\/p>\n<p>Sabah g\u00fcne\u015f bahar y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6stermi\u015fti. (Bu zaman da iyiye i\u015faret de\u011fil, Rabbim hay\u0131rl\u0131 rahmet versin, bizleri susuzlukla imtihan etmesin. Amin.) Nereden ba\u015flamal\u0131 hayata \u00f6nce abdest al\u0131p ar\u0131nmal\u0131 ve 4 rekat ku\u015fluk namaz\u0131 ile sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n sadakas\u0131 verilmeli. Oda s\u0131ms\u0131cak, \u00e7aydanl\u0131klar haz\u0131r hemen \u00e7ay\u0131 demlemeli.\u00a0 Rabbime sonsuz hamd ediyorum, mekan\u0131 ya\u015fanabilir k\u0131lan e\u015fime de te\u015fekk\u00fcr, Allah Raz\u0131 olsun.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sak\u0131n nazar etmeyin<\/strong>; bu kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 sayg\u0131 ve sevgi ile geli\u015fen, mayas\u0131 a\u015fk olan, uzun m\u00fccadelelerle elde edilmi\u015f (9-10 y\u0131ll\u0131k) bir eme\u011fin \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fc ve ayn\u0131 hassasiyet ile korunma gayretinde olan birlikte ya\u015fam tecr\u00fcbesidir. Sab\u0131r , anlay\u0131\u015f ve en \u00f6nemlisi kendini kar\u015f\u0131ndakinin yerine koyarak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme , yerlilerin atas\u00f6z\u00fc ile s\u00f6ylersek: \u201cKar\u015f\u0131ndakinin terliklerini giyerek onlarla y\u00fcr\u00fcme sanat\u0131\u201d bir noktada kad\u0131n ve erkek bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n farkl\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015ftan kabul etmek gerekiyor.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Evlilikte ilk \u00fc\u00e7 y\u0131l kritik d\u00f6nme olarak ge\u00e7iyor<\/strong>. Birlikte ya\u015fam sava\u015f\u0131n\u0131n verildi\u011fi kalelerin veya k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7izgilerin yeniden d\u00fczenlendi\u011fi, tek ki\u015filik ideallerin ya\u015fanabilir \u00e7ift ki\u015filik ideallere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fc yorucu bir s\u00fcre\u00e7. Bu konuyu biraz daha a\u00e7mam\u0131n sebebi evlilik konusunun g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn birinci derece sorunu olmas\u0131ndand\u0131r. Evlilik insan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n problemi haline gelmi\u015ftir, bir \u00e7ok kitaplar yaz\u0131l\u0131yor; fakat g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz kadar\u0131yla ihtiya\u00e7 kar\u015f\u0131lanm\u0131\u015f durumda de\u011fil. \u0130nsanlarda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir yuva kurabilmenin \u00f6zlemi var gibi; fakat k\u00f6t\u00fc \u00f6rnekler ortalarda daha \u00e7ok dola\u015f\u0131yor. Asl\u0131nda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 y\u00fcr\u00fcyen aile say\u0131s\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fc \u00f6rneklerin misli misli fazlas\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan problemli varl\u0131k, bu sebeple sorunsuz bir evlilik ol(a)maz, ama bunlar tatl\u0131 problemlerdir. Hakikat yolunda ilerleme derdi varsa dan\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fc Allah\u2019\u0131n kurallar\u0131 ise problem yok. \u00d6rf ve geleneklerin ancak hakikat \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fc ile \u00e7eli\u015fmeyen y\u00f6nleri kabul edilebilir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130nce belli kesme \u00e7ay barda\u011f\u0131<\/strong>n\u0131n zarif bir duru\u015fu var. Kahvalt\u0131m\u0131 yapt\u0131m. (F\u0131r\u0131nda \u00f6zel kekeler beni bekliyordu.)<\/p>\n<p>Modern kemirgenlerin di\u015flerine bula\u015fan &#8220;aile kurumu&#8221; y\u00fckseltilmelidir. Ailede ya\u015fan\u0131r k\u0131l\u0131namayan hi\u00e7 bir proje, makro planda da bir i\u015fe yaramaz.<\/p>\n<p>Hay\u0131rl\u0131 g\u00fcnler.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2642,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[54,20],"tags":[6],"class_list":["post-759","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile","category-gunce","tag-cihad-meric"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/759","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=759"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/759\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3521,"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/759\/revisions\/3521"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2642"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=759"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=759"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kainatamektup.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=759"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}